It’s a curious thing.
At some point you realise there’s a different way of living than the one you’re currently experiencing.
So you search.
Maybe that’s healing. Maybe optimisation. Maybe both.
Letting go. Growing. Becoming more skilful. More complete.
But the problem with the seeker — and with our hyper-obsessed world of fixing, healing and becoming — is that there is no arriving.
There’s always more.
More to fix. More to optimise. More to do. More to become.
(I wrote a whole (short) book about this if you want to explore it further: Chasing More and Finding Enough. Check it out on Amazon)
But it took me a very long time to realise this:
At some point, you have to stop postponing life.
You have to stop waiting until you are healed enough, optimised enough, or successful enough before allowing yourself to fully be here.
You have to make the most of what you have and what you are, right now.
Not when life finally settles down.
Right now.
In this, contentment becomes a kind of superpower.
You can’t think your way into contentment. It isn’t another achievement.
It comes when you stop being psychologically pulled around by the more and the different of the mind and begin experiencing life directly.
Presence not seeking.
Participation not postponement.
Anthony de Mello nailed it when he wrote:
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Don't change: Desire to change is the enemy of love.
Don't change yourselves: Love yourselves as you are.
Don't change others: Love all others as they are.
Don't change the world: It is in God's hands and he knows.
And if you do that change will occur
Marvellously in its own way and in its own time
Yield to the current of life unencumbered by baggage.
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How do you yield to the current of life?
That is the real task.
To discover a way of being without constant inner struggle.
Present without overthinking.
Fully engaged without being internally overwhelmed by every experience.
Go well!
Arjuna
PS.
My way is the Ishayas’ Ascension.
It allowed me to see how seeking itself was preventing me from fully living.
It gave me the ability to get out of constant mental noise and become more present, engaged and available for life exactly as it is.
Simple.
Come and join me for the next course: 3–5 July (7pm start).
Here’s the link for details and to book, and just shout if you have any questions: