How many stylish individuals do you know? The style I’m talking about is found in the free agents. The ones who have that sense of “nothing to prove, nothing to hide”. They’re not busting their buns trying to be noticed, or trying to be something for someone … they’re just content in who they are. _______
"Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say, and not giving a damn” - Gore Vidal _______
Style is not letting anyone define your life for you.
What a powerful thing, style, isn’t it? I bet you’ve had those times when you just feel settled. Content. Comfortable in your own skin. Self-contained. There’s an inner sense of “ahhhhhh”. There isn’t even a sense of not giving a damn, you’re just free to live.
This kind of style is a skill you can obtain.
It requires perseverance but no strain. It requires awareness and returning to the present moment. It requires seeing all those self-critical and harsh judgements and condemnations that go through your skull and being indifferent to them. It requires being willing to actively praise and be grateful for your life and for others; it requires an end to gossip.
But you can possess that self-possessed style of being free to exist however you wish. You can. Anything else is just a habit and you can create a new habit.
Let me know if you have a question? Or I can help with anything at all.
Go well! Arjuna
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