Why A “Pretty Good” Life Can Be A Curse

It may be an odd thing to say -

But bear with me.

I get to meet a fair few people.

And the one thing that motivates like nothing else …

... is suffering.

Everyone I’ve met who is determined to live the very best life possible - 

The basis of that being a solid foundation in being calm, clear, focussed and able to take nothing too seriously …

Has usually experienced some degree of difficulty in their lives.

Which means they haven’t wanted to go back there.

They’ve wanted to find a way out of suffering, for good.

And fair enough too.

It’s a wake up call.

When you realise life sucks, you don’t want to hang around.

It motivates you to do something different.

It’s the same reason I’m here.

Sometimes a pretty good life means you have just that - it’s pretty good.

Nothing comes and shakes your tree enough that you’ll decide to make it really really good.

And that there is a shame.

Average is pretty good.

But why not go for amazing?

It’s actually pretty simple to have a bullet proof mindset,

To have true stability and calm and happiness - no matter what is happening in your life.

And therefore enjoy each and every moment,

Bringing the best version of you to your relationship, your family, your work, your sport, to all of life.

It just takes a touch of dedication and persistence.

To keep going until you master your own mind, your reactions, your choices.

And sometimes that commitment only comes from such a wake up call.

(An alarm is never nice - but it certainly gets me out of bed)

So if life is tough at the moment -

If it’s not going your way,

If it seems like everything is going wrong, falling down around your ears,

Or maybe it’s just a bit hollow. It doesn’t make sense.

Maybe you have everything but there’s a nagging doubt at the back of your mind of “Is this it? Is this all there is to life?”

Then you may actually be in a great place.

A place of awareness.

The dawning of awareness sometimes hurts.

But ultimately it’s a wonderful thing.

Because there is no choice without awareness.

Even if you become aware of yourself and what you’ve been doing or how you’re living -

And it seems like you come up short,

Then wonderful.

I mean that.

Because now you can do something about it.

The lights have been switched on and you’re no longer stumbling around in the dark.

Now you can get to a place where you don’t let life define you or your actions or your feelings any more.

Now you can make better and better choices. Choices you can increasingly be proud of, not ones you regret.

Choices that mean you define life - and not the other way around.

Does that make sense?

I hope so because you CAN get to a place where that one day you’ll look back on your past,

And be GRATEFUL you were in a bit of a hole -

(I’m serious)

Because it made you live the best life you could,

Rather than sleep walk through life.

So go well - chin up, keep going. Head on up.

Small steps, you’ll get there.

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Take it easy



Of course suffering isn’t necessary.

So if you’re not hurting don’t panic.

Sometimes it seems it’s useful.

(or maybe it’s just my glass half full approach)

But only so you never go back there again.

In reality you can use anything for motivation.

To be a better parent and/or partner, to make sure you get to the end of your day and regret nothing, to make sure you can be super productive yet stress free and still laugh your way through your day …

There’s a million reasons why you might want to do the work to make sure you have an amazing life.

What are yours? And what are you going to do about it? -