I saw a very cool TED talk the other day about love and connection.
But before I tell you all about it - one of things that I’ve learnt from my practice of Ascension is that my attitude and thoughts affect what happens to me, even down to what other people say to me and treat me.
Isn’t that interesting?
The outside world depends on my relationship to it - what I think and believe about it.
When I was depressed and insular, the world left me alone. I thought no one cared, and low and behold, no one cared.
My practice of Ascension meditation meant that I was able to shake off the lows quicker, or operate despite them. It meant that increasingly I saw the world as a much friendlier, optimistic place. And for real - I met more and more happy and friendly people, a lot more. It was like the sun came out.
The world isn’t an external thing at all, it very much is dependent on how I approach it.
I think it was the writer Anais Nin who said “we do not see the world as it is, we see it as we are”.
Explained in this TED talk was the very same thing:
The one thing that keeps everyone away from love and connection is the fear of not being worthy of love and connection.
Read that again.
For a richer experience of life, it is only your inner judgement that needs to change. If anything, the only thing you need fear is fear itself.
The people that feel the most love and connection in their lives only have it because they believe that they are worthy of it - that there is nothing “wrong” with them or that nothing needs to change for them to be loved.
As well as “worthiness”, there is a sense of okay-ness or contentment with who they are, as they are, in all their “imperfections”.
These people are able to let go of who they think they should be in order to be who they are.
And in that dynamic of being worthy now, not later when they become a “better” person - whatever that is - the outside world responds; in this case, with love and connection.
This game of life is played on an inner court. Your attitudes change the nature of your interactions and your reality.
Isn’t that cool?
It’s so nice to hear researchers are catching up.
Link to video is here if you want to see it. It’s 20 minutes long, but well worth it:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
If you want that, if you want to have more connection, more meaning in your life, however you live, then know that it’s all about your attitude.
Change your attitude, change your life.
Change the inner reactions, every one responds differently to you.
I love that because the one thing you can change is yourself.
If you want the simplest way to reset all judgements and fear, then come and learn Ascension with me. 15-17 April - come as a day student, or there is a retreat option as well.
Email me if you want a seat - don’t delay! Life is too short to live it half-arsed.
Take it easy out there, and have some fun too, okay?
- Arjuna