Last email was all about how any relationship transforms when you give to it. When you give first, you create the very real possibility of enjoying a rich, alive, fun relationship. I said to give and give and give.
And yet! Sometimes the most giving thing you can do is say “NO” … is not give.
I don’t say this to annoy you, but done from a foundation of giving and appreciation, saying no to someone is sometimes the greatest thing you can do.
I used to say YES to everyone and everything. I wondered why there was zero time for me and what I wanted to do. I started to resent people asking for things or advice. Starting to say no was a revelation to me, it really was.
Saying no, also for example, means you can make the time to sit down and meditate. This in turn means you can recharge and refresh, gain a million and one physical, emotional, mental and spiritual benefits and therefore run closer to 100% than 0% (like so many people do).
When you’re running on 100% everyone wins. You can give so much more, and in ways that mean you don’t start to resent anyone.
So sometimes saying NO means you can say YES so much more.
Now, there’s no rule book for this. Get present and you’ll find out when and where you might like to say NO more.
Go well! Arjuna
PS. More awareness, more presence in your life? You gain a kind of wisdom, a kind of intuition which means you know the best thing to do in each and every moment.
It’s really pretty cool once you start to experience it.
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