“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
— Maya Angelou
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It’s school holidays, so I’m typing fast.
Sumati is holding the fort on our super energetic kids and their three cousins who are matching them for chaos and other fun things.
I say “I don’t have much time to write to you” but – and apologies for this – I really want to spend time with them and not you.
Sorry (not sorry!) again, but something that really shook up my priorities was this:
75% of all the time you will ever spend with a child is complete by the time they reach 12 years old. 90% is done by the time they are 18 years old.
My daughter is now 6. Yikes.
Time is precious – my time and your time.
While I aim to make these words so – if this isn’t serving you, get out as quick as you can!
Spend your time well.
Spend it in a way that satisfies you.
Spend it in a way that they will remember too.
Maya Angelou’s beautiful words about how they’ll forget just about everything except for how I made them feel resonates so much.
I have a game with my kids –
I say, “Guess what?” and when they say “What?”, I proceed to tell them how much I love them, and why.
They roll their eyes, they’ve heard it all before. They act bored, but you know, I think they like it.
I realised I was missing Sumati out, which is such an oversight. So she’s now in the game too.
Also,
The untrained human brain has a 9-1 negativity bias – which means the voice in our heads can be brutal.
(Which you probably already know).
As Bob Goff once said,
“Most people need love and acceptance a lot more than they need advice.”
So by making sure they know how much they mean to me, I get to help with their relationship with their own fears and self-criticism too.
Anyways ... love and appreciation goes such a long way. For me and them.
Give it a shot.
That’s me for this week, I’m over and out.
Go well,
Arjuna
PS.
Did you know … ?
A big part of Ascension meditation is appreciation, gratitude, love and compassion.
Which turns out is a fine way to calm and realign the craziest of minds.
The last course for 2023 happens very soon – 10-12 November (starts 7pm Friday)
If you’re interested in details, reply or msg me and I’ll get back to you asap.
Tap the link below and we’ll chat more:
m.me/mrarjunaishaya
Talk soon!