I know this for sure, because I’ve suffered from it, and I’ve talked to a lot of people about it - it doesn’t matter who you are and what you’ve achieved in the past, your own head is your worst, nastiest critic. Nothing is good enough.
There is nothing more demoralising, nothing more hard work than living with a mind that is telling you what a loser you are.
Sometimes you would not talk to a dog the way you talk to yourself. If you could hear your internal dialogue coming out of someone else’s mouth? You’d be shocked. And all for what?
Because you made a mistake? Because you slipped up? Because you want to do something better?
What to do about it?
Alrighty - I have a little challenge for you. Something I’ve been getting the guys in the mindfulness Facebook group to play with (click here to join), and I thought I’d tell you too.
24 hours long is the challenge. For these 24 hours you will:
Assume there is no wrong.
It'll require that you actively watch your mind for what it tells you. Simply reframe - there is no wrong, there is simply something you needed to learn. If so, what did you learn?
Great - draw a line under it, begin again. Hit the reset button.
Got it? Get going there, let me know if you have any questions.
The answer is always at the bottom isn’t it?
Give the above a shot first, I want you to see something. Then come back to this …
You’re going to see that you can reframe anything. You can choose your attitude on everything that you do or that happens to you.
You don’t like it? OK - is this proof that you’ve got it wrong, AGAIN? Or can you focus on what you have learnt? What you will do differently?
Completely different approach, completely different inner “sense” isn’t it? One is harming and draining, the other supporting and encouraging - and all through your choice.
Good work - keep choosing!
Want the low down on the mindfulness awareness challenge, complete with Facebook page where I set homework like this?