The most violent thing you do

I’m not violent you say … and yet: Do you know what one of the most violent things you can actually do is?

Try to be someone that you’re not.

Do you know what one of the greatest realisations that you can ever come to is?

That you are enough, just as you are.

The enemy, if there is such a thing (which I talked a little about on Friday), is the more or less constant and continual judgement, comparison, evaluation of ourselves by ourselves.

It is the constant and continual self-management, self-appraisal and attempting to validate and secure a certain standing in the eyes of the rest of the world.

It is the constant and continual struggle to live up to certain unconscious ideas and expectations and standards, all soaked in from such an early age that they seem like “this is what is natural, this is the rules, this is the way you live life." 

What say you?

How much time do you spend thinking about who you are and what other people think of you? About who you are and how you’re doing in the world?

And then the whole commercial world reflects that back to us: “Buy this and be happy, be fulfilled!”, “Achieve this and find purpose!”, “Have this lifestyle and find your identity!”

What a relief, what a revolution then to realise that there is no “natural” way of living, no “truth” … it’s all just a commonly held belief of what a good life looks like … of what a good person should do and be.

It’s all a belief that, when you see it within yourself, you can take or leave. Go with it, or create your own.

But you have to see it’s the blindly fighting to live up to these expectations that keeps you away from peace and contentment, that keeps you stressed, that keeps you away from realising who you really are beyond your job, your possessions, your hobbies, your thoughts.

It’s the very thing that stops you fully living … because you’re always waiting to become.

You are enough, exactly as you are, warts and all.

What this world needs is people who are 100% ok in their own skin. And this doesn’t mean you give up goals and standards, but you do so with self-awareness, and a lightness of touch.

When you're 100% okay with who you are, you still grow – but not because you need to, but because you wantto. And grow all the more faster you do. (Yoda coming in, sorry.)

Some (some!) of the benefits of being this are contentment, peace, gratitude, honesty, acceptance, allowing, understanding … and being these things means you allow everyone else around to relax, to stop trying to be something they’re not too.

You can start to finally have a dialogue, a connection, true communication with others.

Being okay in your own skin. It’s one of the greatest things you can do for world peace, for the peace of your family.

A bold move though, nonetheless it’s super rewarding: a revolutionary act that takes place within and has resounding influence in the world.

Go well!Arjuna

PS.Practice meditation. I’d say learn the Bright Path Ishayas’ Ascension because it’s awesome. But whatever you do, do something.

It is the one thing that rapidly helps you relax in your own skin.

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