There’s Nothing To Say

small-talkI’m back home after what seemed like a marathon mission of sociability. We went the length of the country and witnessed weddings, popped in for long cups of tea, ate dinners, drank too much wine.

It is the season, is it not?

Not that long ago the thought of all that socialising would have sent a shiver of fear up and down my spine.

You see, I’m not that good at small talk.

And all those parties would have thrown me right out of my comfort zone.

Meeting and greeting and how do you doing and what do you doing …

I put myself under a lot of pressure to “perform” - to be social.

I don’t know if you know what I’m talking about but that pressure made me so awkward. Very awkward indeed. And slightly anxious too.

These days I’m pleased to report that a solid week of socialising and I’m still alive.

I did it, I made it through.

What’s changed is that I’m happier in my own skin.

I’m happy if I have something to say, very happy if I don’t.

Content and comfortable with silence, also not needing someone’s approval.

I’m not trying to present an image, putting on a mask to be liked.

Which was so much hard work.


It’s very much a matter of here I am and that is all.

My Ishayas’ Ascension meditation practice has means I’ve gotten relaxed and content in my own skin and happy - for no reason.

Confident as me, without arrogance.

And without all that pressure to perform or be someone, it seems I’ve gotten better at small talk.

Imagine that?

So if you’re fearing a social season, being in a room full of people you don’t know - don’t sweat it.

No really, don’t sweat.

There’s never anything to prove to anyone.

You are you, and that is more than enough.

If you have something to say, wonderful. If you don’t wonderful.

You might learn to ask interesting questions - that’s a nice skill that gets people talking.

But no worries if not.

You can also learn to be content as yourself and enjoy whatever the moment offers.

You can learn to be without anxiety and panic and worry.

You can learn ALL that, really you can.

A practice of meditation and mindset has been the key for me.

If you’d like to know more about it, go here and I'll tell you all I know.

And if you ever need anything, just ask.

Enjoy yourself, ok? Arjuna